Ladies, i need your help bad...

First of all since this is my first post allow me to introduce myself... I go by NateDogg on most of the forums I visit. Ive been lurking here for the past six months and finally decided tonight that I need some help from you ladies... This is the problem... my lady of more than 10 years will NOT let me get a bike. She throws a fit anytime I even ride a friend's bike. You know the deal..."too dangerous" "too risky" blah blah... Ive wanted a bike for the past 5 years but this year Ive really been bitten bad. Anytime I wanted a bike I would just ride a friends for a few days and get my fix. But this year its not working... Im ready to drop the cash but my lady said she would bash it/knock it over etc if I ever come home with one. Sad I know. I want a K6 600 so freakin bad. So ladies, what should I do? Ive been trying to warm her up to it for the past few months by talking about it, reading mags/safety books in front of her, visiting dealerships, but nothing is working. Im not afraid of her, im just afraid of her bashing my bike. She means a lot to me, we have 2 kids together, so I understand where shes coming from... I love her with all my heart, but I really want my own bike this year... The K6s are just too sweet. Ladies I need your opinions and any suggestions that might help me out. Thanks for your time, NateDogg

Maybe you can make a deal with her. Suggest that you both take the MSF course together, in the mean time she can learn how to ride and maybe she'll understand the excitement riding brings. Maybe if she feels included she'll be more understanding that this is something you really want. Hopefully after that she'll lighten up a bit. If nothing works you can always do what I did, I bought the bike anyway (after my parents told me no) and I kept it at a friends house until they got over it. Oh and buy her something expensive, that always changes my mind :lol:

I'm not a lady but I have to answer. Buy her a ring, you need to confuse her. Buy the bike. Roll in on the bike, when she comes out screaming....give her the ring. If she still doesn't like it, she will get over it. If she loves you....she won't go anywhere or mess with your new ride....if she doesn't, you know the answer. Sounds like she has been successful in controlling you for the last five years by threats.....what makes you think she will stop. Buy the damn bike and show her who is boss. Once you let them take control, you might as well give up. We call this couch potato syndrome. These men have nothing to do b/c the wife won't let them...in return they sit on the couch, have favorite TV shows & gain weight. This is what they want. Buy the bike man....if it makes you happy.....it will in return make her happy. Just act miserable until you get it.

I also suggest the msf course for the both of you. is she relaly worried about it being dangerous or does she think your gonna be picking up curb monkeys?

My brother, I don't even know where to start. You need to work out things on almost every level.

I'm not a lady but I have to answer. Buy her a ring, you need to confuse her. Buy the bike. Roll in on the bike, when she comes out screaming....give her the ring. If she still doesn't like it, she will get over it. If she loves you....she won't go anywhere or mess with your new ride....if she doesn't, you know the answer. Sounds like she has been successful in controlling you for the last five years by threats.....what makes you think she will stop. Buy the damn bike and show her who is boss. Once you let them take control, you might as well give up. We call this couch potato syndrome. These men have nothing to do b/c the wife won't let them...in return they sit on the couch, have favorite TV shows & gain weight. This is what they want. Buy the bike man....if it makes you happy.....it will in return make her happy. Just act miserable until you get it. I agree with ^^ :thumbup: good luck

I also suggest the msf course for the both of you. is she relaly worried about it being dangerous or does she think your gonna be picking up curb monkeys? that would be my question too. Is she worried about potentially raising 2 kids on her own and losing you if you go down? Or is she worried abut you going out and picking up other girls? I'm not saying you DO, cause I don't know you from the screen I'm looking at right now, but some girls are a bit of a control freak like that. Some of the guys I know aren't even allowed to look at porn because of the insecurities of their girls. So is she looking out for YOUR safety? Or trying to control her own insecurities? Either way, she should be doing whatever it takes to make you happy. The hubby doesn't like me riding (for a safety concern), but after I saved up the cash (split the tax return 50/50), went out and took the course (aced it), got better then him on the bike licensing (aced that also), and proceeded to become director of speedfreak, he's pretty much warmed up to the idea of me riding now, and cruises with me on his mom's old Shadow. It's respect. She should encourage you to do whatever it is you want to, whether she likes the idea of it or not. It's unconditional love...stand by that person 150%, whether you agree or not.

While I can't give any advice my self. (I put a down payment on a bike in 2004 and never saw my girl since :headscrat :laughingr ) I'm not a lady but I have to answer. Buy her a ring, you need to confuse her. Buy the bike. Roll in on the bike, when she comes out screaming....give her the ring. If she still doesn't like it, she will get over it. If she loves you....she won't go anywhere or mess with your new ride....if she doesn't, you know the answer. Sounds like she has been successful in controlling you for the last five years by threats.....what makes you think she will stop. Buy the damn bike and show her who is boss. Once you let them take control, you might as well give up. We call this couch potato syndrome. These men have nothing to do b/c the wife won't let them...in return they sit on the couch, have favorite TV shows & gain weight. This is what they want. Buy the bike man....if it makes you happy.....it will in return make her happy. Just act miserable until you get it. I don't believe that is the answer. You can only hope that will pacifier her for a few days. As for acting miserable until she gives in, haven't we tried this before? Has it ever worked? I don't think manipulation is the key. I’ll tell you what I did (even thought it didn't work) Talk to her about it and then get it. I'm sure she's worried about your safety but we all know that's not why she doesn't want you to get one. If she has any respect for you she will not destroy your property. Kind of a rock and a hard place because you've got kids. My thing with women is always honesty.

My boyfriend wanted to get a bike, and I was really scared because he's young, crazy, and doesn't believe he can get hurt. He convinced me to take the motorcycle safety course with him, and not only did I become WAY more comfortable with him getting a bike, but I learned to ride too. You should try to get her to take the course with you, that way she will know that you can ride a bike sefely.

My boyfriend wanted to get a bike, and I was really scared because he's young, crazy, and doesn't believe he can get hurt. He convinced me to take the motorcycle safety course with him, and not only did I become WAY more comfortable with him getting a bike, but I learned to ride too. You should try to get her to take the course with you, that way she will know that you can ride a bike sefely. exactly! see ^^ proof. I'm telling you...that's the way to go. :thumbup:

and if none of that works then give her da boot... I'm kidding of course...

Maybe you can make a deal with her. Suggest that you both take the MSF course together, in the mean time she can learn how to ride and maybe she'll understand the excitement riding brings. Maybe if she feels included she'll be more understanding that this is something you really want. Hopefully after that she'll lighten up a bit. If nothing works you can always do what I did, I bought the bike anyway (after my parents told me no) and I kept it at a friends house until they got over it. Oh and buy her something expensive, that always changes my mind :lol: Yeah Ive been trying to get her to take a class with me... Still workin at it. I'm not a lady but I have to answer. Sounds like she has been successful in controlling you for the last five years by threats.....what makes you think she will stop. Buy the damn bike and show her who is boss. Once you let them take control, you might as well give up. We call this couch potato syndrome. These men have nothing to do b/c the wife won't let them...in return they sit on the couch, have favorite TV shows & gain weight. This is what they want. Buy the bike man....if it makes you happy.....it will in return make her happy. Just act miserable until you get it. Bro, this is one of the most understanding women on earth. She lets me do pretty much anything I want. She just thinks some grandma is gonna slam into me one day. I also suggest the msf course for the both of you. is she relaly worried about it being dangerous or does she think your gonna be picking up curb monkeys? She really thinks its dangerous... A good friend of one of her best friends went down...RIP. So that makes it about a 1000x harder for me. that would be my question too. Is she worried about potentially raising 2 kids on her own and losing you if you go down? Or is she worried abut you going out and picking up other girls? I'm not saying you DO, cause I don't know you from the screen I'm looking at right now, but some girls are a bit of a control freak like that. Some of the guys I know aren't even allowed to look at porn because of the insecurities of their girls. So is she looking out for YOUR safety? Or trying to control her own insecurities? Either way, she should be doing whatever it takes to make you happy. The hubby doesn't like me riding (for a safety concern), but after I saved up the cash (split the tax return 50/50), went out and took the course (aced it), got better then him on the bike licensing (aced that also), and proceeded to become director of speedfreak, he's pretty much warmed up to the idea of me riding now, and cruises with me on his mom's old Shadow. It's respect. She should encourage you to do whatever it is you want to, whether she likes the idea of it or not. It's unconditional love...stand by that person 150%, whether you agree or not. All safety related. Who wants to be a single parent? She loves me and doesn't want to see me get hurt. She trusts me, just not the cagers. This is a girl that is behind me 1000% in everything I do... But this is just one of those things... Safety, thats her only reason. It might sound strange to some of you, but she said I could get a quad, dirt bike, kart or pretty much anything else just not a street bike... like i mentioned before, its the streets she doesn't trust. F*CK!!! Anyway, thanks for all the replies. Guess Im just gonna have to find a way to work the angles... :headscrat

Yeah Ive been trying to get her to take a class with me... Still workin at it. Bro, this is one of the most understanding women on earth. She lets me do pretty much anything I want. She just thinks some grandma is gonna slam into me one day. She really thinks its dangerous... A good friend of one of her best friends went down...RIP. So that makes it about a 1000x harder for me. All safety related. Who wants to be a single parent? She loves me and doesn't want to see me get hurt. She trusts me, just not the cagers. This is a girl that is behind me 1000% in everything I do... But this is just one of those things... Safety, thats her only reason. It might sound strange to some of you, but she said I could get a quad, dirt bike, kart or pretty much anything else just not a street bike... like i mentioned before, its the streets she doesn't trust. F*CK!!! Anyway, thanks for all the replies. Guess Im just gonna have to find a way to work the angles... :headscrat This is going to sound corney but all of your input seems to suggest she has valid reasons for not wanting you to ride. Maybe you souldn't ride. :headshake Street that is :D Take it to the track exclusively. No cagers there and one of the safest environments one could hope for. :rock: :woot: :cheers: :clap: :bounce :thumbup: Send me pics :yumyum:

This talk is insane, my brother. If you want a goddamned bike, get a goddamned bike. It's not like she's your wife.

This talk is insane, my brother. If you want a goddamned bike, get a goddamned bike. It's not like she's your wife. Actually, she practically is my wife... we have 2 kids together.

if I were you:I would just get the bike. I hate it when someone gives me limits and threatens me. if she really loves you, I doubt she will actually knock your bike over.

give up dude..... she has you brainwashed. Another man lost to the "other side". We need to pull out some intervention boyz, this guy needs his nuts back. HAHA j/k. I don't know what to tell ya man. I don't have the energy for this one. Buy the bike and worry about it later.....enuff said. Then rip a huge stand-up by your house to "show" her who is boss of that freakin house. Who the hell would want a kart....your friends will all laugh at you j/k HAHAHA

Actually, she practically is my wife... we have 2 kids together. I picked up on that. I was going to go on a whole rant about why our people as a society is falling apart but I saved it. I guess my point is that one or both of you didn't care enough to make the relationship official and binding, so neither one of you has full nagging rights.

and if none of that works then give her da boot... I'm kidding of course... I was thinking the same... :hmmm:

I took my wife to one of the MSF classes to let her get a glimpse of what was going on, I even boughta couple of Bike saftey videos to let her watch. After a year of conversations and lectures, she finally came around. Now she always asking when am I going to by a new bike (and I have an 05).

One of the most disturbing lines in the English language is: "My wife won't let me." or "My husband won't let me.". Now, I could understand if you told your partner: "Hey, Baby, think me and the boys are going out and score some crystal meth...maybe some smack....later!" I could see objecting. But anything else...Won't let me????? I guess I have "zero tolerance" for that kind of control. No one should be the other's lap dog. Those things need to be settled BEFORE a relationship gets serious. This isn't a macho issue, it's a human issue. Too many women are held back from progressing in life because "My husband won't let me". Too many men are losing out on fun things because "My wife/girlfriend won't let me". (The issues are usually more serious with women....some men hate to see their wife/girlfriend improve their life.) Good luck to all you lapdogs out there (can you tell I'm single?) :lol:

I guess my point is that one or both of you didn't care enough to make the relationship official and binding, so neither one of you has full nagging rights. :clap:

Don't be a wuss and go out and buy it. If you're not married, it's your $$$. That's why I bought mine RIGHT after getting engaged. Haha. :arsenal

One of the most disturbing lines in the English language is: "My wife won't let me." or "My husband won't let me.". Now, I could understand if you told your partner: "Hey, Baby, think me and the boys are going out and score some crystal meth...maybe some smack....later!" I could see objecting. But anything else...Won't let me????? I guess I have "zero tolerance" for that kind of control. No one should be the other's lap dog. Those things need to be settled BEFORE a relationship gets serious. This isn't a macho issue, it's a human issue. Too many women are held back from progressing in life because "My husband won't let me". Too many men are losing out on fun things because "My wife/girlfriend won't let me". (The issues are usually more serious with women....some men hate to see their wife/girlfriend improve their life.) Good luck to all you lapdogs out there (can you tell I'm single?) :lol: :thumbup: Been married for 8 yearsthis dude is right and I would go buy the bike if she loves you she will get over it. Then take the MSF course to make her feel alittle better.

shit....lol.....my husband dont ask me for a permission - he lets me know and asks me what I think about it. If a wife/husband has a problem with the SO getting a bike, its an insecurity issue