OK, to test the 4 pin relay without a proper tester.
Use a multimeter set to resistance (or continuity if you have a meter with audible test function), and put one lead on terminal A and one on terminal B. At this point, you should get no audible tone or a reading of "1." which means open circuit.
Put +12v to terminal C, 0v to terminal D
You should now hear an audible tone from the multimeter or the reading on the display should change from "1." to something like "0.0" or "0.1". This means the relay is working. You may also hear the contacts inside the relay click over but it's not guaranteed.